I can’t stand it when Thor gets hate from Loki fans. I do. In my opinion, he had the strongest bond to Loki. The problems started with the fact that Odin practically raised Loki and Thor to hate Frost Giants with stories of the wars. What did he expect would happen when he told Loki? And “No, Loki” was possibly the worst choice of words. His son was hanging off the edge of an abyss, feeling like he had to kill an entire race to prove his worth after believing himself a monster (from Odin’s stories) and anything Odin said would have had an immediate effect. Just imagine what would have happened if Odin had said “I know.” What they needed was a long talk about the whole ordeal when Loki was far away from the Birfrost. I believe Odin loved Loki but, come The Dark World, he decided that if Loki wished not to be treated like his son, he was going to save himself the pain and end the relationship. They were two very stubborn men who were both in the wrong. And, in this way, Odin was irredeemable.
Frigga tried to be the mediator, but failed when she pushed Loki too far in The Dark World. By asking if she was his mother, she was implying that she could not be if he didn’t consider Odin to be his father, as well. She backed him into a corner, as he couldn’t agree to Odin being his father, not after all that had happened. So he cut the final tie between him and his parents.
After the first movie, Thor fought for the brother he once knew. He probably would have marched through Hel if the need arose. And the opposite of love isn’t hate. Hate is a passionate emotion, and needs to be fueled by a specific reason. Loki did love his brother, but he saw it as a weakness and tried to extinguish it. In the end, Loki put his life on the line for Thor. That’s how much Thor meant to him. And those people who hate Thor because of how he treated Loki to begin with, they need to remember how Thor defended Loki, how he reasoned with him, and how he held him in his arms in their final moment.
I would venture that Frigga and Loki’s final conversation was more a failure of communication and a deeply tragic misunderstanding (if that’s what you weren’t already trying to say). I’m not sure if Frigga was really trying to mediate at that point, because Odin, at least, had made his feelings deeply clear - namely, that Loki might as well have died on that frozen rock.
Otherwise, this is a very, very good summation of a lot of things I’ve been trying to say for years. A very handy quote I’ve used a lot in writing about Loki’s relationship with Thor is “Hate is just love with it’s back turned”, by the eminently brilliant Terry Pratchett. I think Loki really still loves Thor, he just desperately wishes he didn’t. But when the chips were down, when it was a matter of watching Thor die or saving him, Loki picked a side. Loki acknowledged that Thor is not only family, but the only family he has left.
All because Thor held out for him and believed in him. And if you can watch their final scene together on Svartalfheim and not see how much Loki was a huge part of Thor’s world, then I just do not know what to tell you.
Okay I have finally seen the movie and can come back and make comments.
The interaction between Thor and Loki in this movie — I have siblings, and I have two kids, and OH MY NORSE GODS their relationship rings so true. They know how to push each others’ buttons. They also know when and where they can depend on each other. Loki is angry, and vengeful, and frustrated — but he still cooperates with his brother when they have a common goal/common frustration.
I’m happy I went in unspoiled, because all the twists were surprises to me. It was a pure delight to see a movie where I wasn’t sure which way the allegiances would fall.
(Side note: Only just now occurred to me that Loki’s conversation with Frigga was the last conversation they had before she died. No wonder he looks so torn up behind his illusions — and oh, how he clings to his illusions. He wants to be smooth and collected, but inside…)